New research suggests long-term romance is possible and deeply satisfying.

Oh sure, being crazy in love might be fine for Beyonce, but what happens 15 years down the road? Are you condemned to spend your Friday nights on the couch watching television while your husband tries to clean out his left ear with the tiny plastic arm of a wrestling figurine belonging to your youngest son? In other words, does romance always die?

Not according to a recent study published in the March issue of Review of General Psychology, published by the American Psychological Association. Lead researcher Dr. Bianca P. Acevedo, then at Stony Brook University (currently at University of California, Santa Barbara), says that the study challenges the belief that romantic love generally fizzles and is replaced by companionship love if things are going well in the relationship. “When taking a closer look, it seems like some people were still very much in love. They just weren’t crazy.” Read the rest of this entry…

If you often irritated by men’s ‘catching power’ to understand the most simple instructions. You are not alone. I and some friends have experience it. One of my friends has often complained her husband did what he did not ask and ignore her request, at least from her perspective. If she protests, her husband just said, it should be done by maid. ‘Misunderstanding’ pattern like this is usually happen, the wives want they ’standard’ run, while the husband feel that what they do is “more than enough”.

“It’s like two people talking in two different languages, one with English, one with French, so do not know,” said Rhona Raskin, therapeutist sex and family,  owner of Rhona.com. Often, the difference is more vague than the example of the differences in the two languages. Here are some suggestions from Raskin to ‘communicate’ with the men in the correct language.

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Why sign up for counselling BEFORE you have a problem? For the same reason you would take a course before attempting to snowboard — even if you already know how to ski. Counseling provides a cushy pillow for the times you will fall down. And even great couples will.

Considering that somewhere in the vicinity of 40 percent of all first marriages end in divorce, taking time to study the blueprints for the marriage structure before breaking ground would seem wise.

For those alliances that were doomed from the beginning, there’s the possibility to avert a divorce by avoiding an unrealistic marriage. And for those who will speed ahead, there will be the knowledge of the sticky places and some compromise already in place.

We require anyone who wishes to drive to take a course and pass the exam. Yet we assume that emotional connections are instinctive and that having children is easy enough to not need a manual or instruction. Are we nuts? Most of us know about relationships from what we experience around us. For many that is a chaotic or hurtful relationship that ended in disaster during childhood. Pre-marital counselling explores the areas that are predictable crises in a couple’s life. Read the rest of this entry…